“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that’s left is a compromise” -Robert Fritz
What do you want?
Why is it that such a simple question can be so hard to answer?
We often default to canned responses such as “to be successful”, “to be financially free”, “to be happy”, “to be healthy”.
These all sound nice on the surface, but they are all cop-outs. Each of the responses above are most likely not a true desire, but rather a means to an end.
So what’s the end?
What do you really want?
If you’re like me, exploring this question is surprisingly uncomfortable.
It’s almost as if its some sort of taboo to get in touch with our deeper, true desires.
But without those desires, our life is barely worth living.
All dreams, all visions, start with desire. A desire to make things different, a desire to create something new, a desire to make life better, a desire to enjoy existence.
“In business, what distinguishes leaders from laggards and greatness from mediocrity is the ability to uniquely imagine what could be.” -Robert Fritz
Here’s a great thought experiment which will bring you closer to your true desire.
Ask yourself, “what do I truly want?”
Whatever answer arises, follow it up with “and then what?”
And whatever arises from that, “what will this make possible?”
Continue following the rabbithole, following up each new desire with another question.
You’ll inevitably stop yourself and say “ahh, that’s totally unrealistic. I can’t have that!”. “Who am I to have that!?”
That’s how you know you’re getting closer.
Dig, dig, dig and dig some more. The further you go, the closer to your true desires you’ll get.
If you keep digging, eventually you’ll strike gold, and you’ll know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you’ve found a true desire.
Why bother with this exercise? Why not just be happy with what you’ve got, count your blessings and move on with your life?
Because something will always feel uncomplete. A need will always be unmet.
Your true desires are intimately linked with your purpose; your entelechy.
The only way to live a truly satisfied life, is to throw ourselves into the process of creating what we truly want; achieving our true potential.
The Journey is the Destination
The truth is that it doesn’t even matter if we ever reach our goal or not. All that matters is that we are blessed with the exhiliration living in alignment with what we truly want – of actually going after it. The chase itself is pure joy, the journey is the destination.
If we limit ourselves to “attainable” goals, life will never be as bright as it could be.
“The human spirit will not invest itself in a compromise” -Robert Fritz
Let’s set ourselves ablaze with passion for life and relentlessly pursue the actualization of our potential.